Gentleman in the Streets, Casanova in the Sheets
By: Felicity Keith
Men, I get it. You are in a tough spot. You love women and want to treat them right (your mama taught you well after all)…and yet the last thing you want is to be that boring “nice guy” who fails to win her heart (or get her off).
I’m here to tell you that it’s possible to be both a gentleman AND get the girl. And prove you are a total rock star in bed in the process.
How you do this is by combining confident language with your good manners…and a strong dose of naughtiness.
Yes, you can thrill her from her hair down to her toenails by boldly stating just how bad you want her.
How much she turns you on.
Why sex with her is absolute heaven on earth.
Without crossing a line or being offensive.
Never coming across like a wimp.
…or sounding like a cheesy romance novel.
Why Words Work
My friend Lawrence Lanoff, author of The Language of Lust, likes to say “sex happens in the body, eroticism happens in the mind”. And it’s true. I teach it in my program for women and now he’s teaching it to men.
Language is your way in to her mind and into her emotions. Words stimulate the imagination and create a space to explore fantasies. Language is the ultimate sexuality hack.
Understanding the basic principle behind the language of lust means you don’t need to know what she likes or what she doesn’t like. There are universal truths that are basically guaranteed to work on any woman if you do them right.
Here’s the deal…nothing makes a woman feel more sexy than knowing how turned on she is making you. Verbalizing your desire validates her and in turn, makes her desire you more.
And when you confidently tell her how she’s affecting you and give her permission to be sexually uninhibited, you elevate your sexual status to Rock Star in her eyes.
Winning Phrases to Use
Women like to feel adored…and they also love knowing that just their very essence fills you to the brim with desire. And sure, that sounds a little like sexual objectification. Yet when done the right way, won’t offend her. I promise.
Tell her things like…
- Good lord you are sexy. Do you have any idea how much you turn me on?
- My body is tingling all over thinking about what I’m going to do to you when I see you tonight.
- Thoughts of you have me so distracted today. I’m thinking of so many deliciously naughty things…
She also wants to know you are tuned in to her needs, likes, and preferences. You show her that her experience matters by confidently asking questions to engage her imagination and share with you.
- What does it feel like when you are really humming with desire?
- What are some things that really turn you on?
- Have you ever been surprised by something that turned you on?
Listen, there is a plethora of bad advice out there for guys like you. Some of it downright slimy, manipulative, and unethical. A smart guy knows there has to be a better way. Check out this video my friend Lawrence put together for men like you.
Take it from me, a woman who teaches about sex and love, what Lawrence has to share with you will absolutely blow her mind and have her squirming with desire for you.