Ever tried shower sex before?
It seems like a popular move that millions of couples are doing all the time … if you believe what you read in magazines and see on TV. But if you’ve never tried it before, it can be a rather intimidating, er, position (?) to try out at random.
How do you start?
Is soap involved?
What parts should the water be spraying on?
Unlike just hooking your legs around one another in a novel way like the “advanced moves” you see in most sex articles online, this move’s got you tangoing in a wet and soapy little room that (most of the time) is meant for one person and one person only.
So if you’re new to shower sex … first know you’re not alone.
Ok now … where to start?
Shower sex can basically go one of two ways. It might be the hottest sex you’ve had in years, full of new sensations and amazing climaxes.
Or … it might be an awkward attempt at spicing things up that involves someone’s face getting smushed against cold shower tiles and bruises from a wet and slippery fall.
Of course, we hope it’s the former. But to make sure, here are some tips below that will help make shower sex simple, erotic and fun.
Pro Tips for Shower Sex
Consider your shower before you start this thing.
All showers are different, and yes, some are way better for shower sex than others. If at all possible, choose a big shower with a bench.
If you can’t get something big, that’s okay. But make sure you know what you will and won’t be able to do in there. For example, woman on man’s lap is a great position when you have a bench, but don’t attempt it on the skinny edge of a tub.
Start by undressing each other in the bathroom.
This one’s up to you, but a lot of couples find it’s easier to start with clothes on in the bathroom, then undress each other and hop in with the water on. This way, you don’t have to transition from wherever you are in the house to the bathroom.
Of course, this wouldn’t be the end of the world, but keeping things going in a steady stream of sexual tension can be key to great for reaching amazing climaxes.
Keep the water lukewarm.
You’re first tendency may be to crank up the heat and steam up the mirrors. And for a while that might be okay, but it’s a much better idea to keep things lukewarm. Here’s why.
Lukewarm water will keep the experience exciting. It will make both your nipples hard, and slightly cooler water will also wake you up mentally and keep you active for more.
If you’re not sure what to do at first, just do what you normally would do in the shower …
As you move into the tub or shower area, figuring out what position you want to start with can be a little bit of a challenge, but it doesn’t have to be. Of course, you can always keep on going with the kissing.
But you can also just get to washin! That’s right. The great thing about showering is that it’s already super sensual. There’s no need to jazz anything up because you are literally touching yourself and slathering yourself with wet stuff. Start by doing yourself. Then move to your partner …
Use soap to your advantage.
Soap is like lube. It’s slimy and soft on your body, and it can help you a whole lot while you’re in the shower, so don’t go without it. Use it to wash yourself and your partner … everywhere.
As a side note, using regular lube in the shower is a possibility, but do be extremely careful if and when it runs to the bottom of the tub or drain area as it can be super easy to slip on. Soap can too, so pay attention to where you step.
Keep your, ahem, area, out of the stream of water.
Natural lubrication is important for any type of sex, but having the shower stream running right on your crotch areas will wash away that lubrication. Obviously, pretty much every part of you is going to get at least a little wet, but you should try to keep the shower stream at aimed at chest or stomach level. Of course, you should also keep it directly away from your faces. And remember, this may take some maneuvering and adjusting. Don’t worry, you’ll get the hang of it.
Be careful not to slip. No, seriously.
Slipping is a serious worry when having shower sex. If you can manage it, anti-slip strips in the bottom of your shower are a great idea.
Additionally, always keep four on the floor. Feet, that is. Even though him holding her entirely off the ground or him with one leg on the edge of the tub while doing it from behind may seem like a great idea at the time, things could end badly, and it will happen in just a few seconds. Safety first!
Don’t get stressed about it going “perfectly.”
Ok last thing: Don’t freak out if things don’t go perfectly. Especially the first time.
This should be a fun experience and not scary or nerve-wrecking. If you get soap in your eyes, wash it out and keep going. If the first few positions you try aren’t sensual … or even comfortable … try again!
It’s all about trying something new and doing it together. Go into it with a sense of adventure, and whatever happens you’ll have a good time.