Foreplay First Please

Foreplay first. Then sex.


I don't want sex, I want the things that lead up to it.

I don’t want sex, I want the things that lead up to it.

The slow kissing then the passionate kissing, then the pulling closer, the neck kisses, the grabbing, biting, heavy breathing, grinding, the pauses while you catch your breath, feeling each other.

Oh my.

Then sex.


  1. Hmm. How is this defining ‘sex’ though? Does it mean, “then, start on my clitoris”, or “then cunnilingus”, or some other definition of when ‘sex’ begins? Which bits are ‘sex’ and which bits aren’t? Surely it’s all ‘sex’?

    1. The most erogenous sex organ is our mind. The mind bending sensations of a really good sensual kiss sends us over the edge. It creates the desire to make love, Not fucking and not sex. Sadly sex becomes mechanical doing this and that a performance. We (women) crave a sensuality and erotic sensations of the mind. Kissing shows what may follow but the kiss in its slow unhurried exploration brings heat and pulsations throughout the body to a madness one hopes will last un rushed exploration of the mind.

  2. The woman I am seeing is not interested in fore play at all…. She said from previous relationships all she wants is sex… This concerns me. Is there anything I can do or should I be concerned about it. I have never experienced this before as we are both close to 40 yrs of age – neither been married before.

  3. Its all about the build up and arousing each other before moment of eruption. Then slowly moving closer and closer together immensely exploring all the stimulating areas on each others bodies. Enjoying the time put in satisfying the others every need and desire before jumping into like its meaningless with no feeling behind it. This is why we do it in the first place other than when its decided to add to the relationship with having a child.