How can I help her stop dating losers?
I’ve recently made friends with a woman 35, I’m 48. We get on well and are so comfortable together, we recently stepped over the friend boundary and had sex, the loving was amazing, we both thought so. I like her a lot , but she doesn’t know what she wants. She was in a 20 year relationship and she’s starting to live a little and have some fun. Thing is, she’s getting through guys likens, looking for that spark and I’ve tried to tell her that she should stay single for a while now and grow, learn and develop a little and have some fun. She’s been separated for a year now and had two disastrous relationships in that time. She says she likes me and who knows where we’ll go, then says we’ll only ever be friends but keeps moving the goal posts. I’ve told her ill still be there when she’s ready, how can I help her stop with the losers? Her ex partner was 50. Age isn’t an issue to her, she kinda likes older guys.
One has to have enough self respect & self love to know they deserve the best. If she does not love herself, she will always date “losers.” Allow her the experience of what she’s going through so she can grow. You can be there to support her but it’s okay to walk away for yourself. If you two are destined to be together, it’ll happen without force. ♥
Nicole is right. She has to respect….and love herself before she’ll be capable of truly loving another. I went through a similar relationship where my girlfriend had just divorced her second husband. I spent a year with her and can honestly say I loved her more than life. However, she decided she wanted to serial date after that year. She loved me too, but there was something in her life that needed to heal first. I told her I couldn’t continue to see her like that but that id always be there for her.
If they can’t give you their whole heart, dont set yourself up for failure.