How To Turn Anyone On in Seconds
Do you have a (not so) secret weakness that makes you melt and brings you to your knees, making you almost instantly attracted to someone?
Yep, I thought so because we all do. Whether it be a sexy smile, those magical words that set off a 5 alarm fire in your pants, or that awe-inspiring walk of theirs that leaves you gawking long after they’ve entered the room, we have all found ourselves seemingly instantaneously seduced at some point.
Here are 5 immediate turn ons that will have them reaching for the fan within seconds:
Smile for them.
Audrey Hepburn, one of the most charming, attractive women in the history of Hollywood is quoted as saying, “Happy girls are the prettiest.” Let’s face it, some days it’s hard to find our smile but having an overall positive attitude greatly affects our own quality of life, how we feel about ourselves, and how others feel when they are around us.
You don’t want to be around Debbie Downer every day, do you? Would you be attracted to her if you just met her a few minutes ago? Well, no one else would either.
In this great article, Claire Casey explains why authentic happiness trumps a “sexy” ANYTHING in attracting male attention.
Similarly, in a Men’s Health survey of more than 1,000 American women ages 21 to 54, 77 percent of women ranked a sense of humor as their number one must-have in a man, beating out intelligence, passion, confidence, and generosity.
Smiling and a sense of humor is hot. You’ve got it so use it!
Truth is that not everyone loves or is even comfortable with the thought of sounding like an adult film star between the sheets and that is absolutely okay! The great thing about steamy talk is that you can make it as subtle or risque as you want (click here for more info.) As with all things intimate, if it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.
BUT if you want to explore your adventurous side, you could start with baby steps. Simply saying “I love your (…)” is an immediate turn on. Feeling like you could take it a step further? Go for it and see how you feel about it! Be open with your partner about wanting to explore verbal intimacy and allow them to support you so you can find a place you are comfortable with that will add excitement to your lovemaking for you both.
You also don’t have to limit using sexy phrases to the bedroom. Leaving a tiny little suggestive post-it in their briefcase for them to find at work or a text message (click here for texting ideas) can have them looking at the clock all day wishing it were time to come home to you. Not a bad way to spend the day at work, is it? Whew!
There’s nothing worse than trying to play mindreader extraordinaire in order to understand what it is that your partner wants.
If they ask you where you want to go for dinner tonight, they’re not asking just to be kind – they really want to know, so skip the hmm-ing and haw-ing and tell them that you want to go to that amazing Mexican restaurant you’ve heard has the best Guac this side of the border.
If you’ve been in the mood for some nookie since you woke up this morning, whisper it into their ear and watch them light up like the Rockerfeller Christmas tree (bling!)
Don’t leave them guessing. It’s frustrating and shuts down communication which you really don’t want. This is not to say that you shouldn’t listen and be open to what your partner wants and needs because you should BUT your desires are just as important. Anyone who cares about you is truly just as interested in what you want so be decisive and be vocal about it.
Walk and talk with an air of confidence.
If you’ve ever been stumped as to why someone who you think is “less attractive” scores a great man or woman over someone who would be considered a “hottie”, it’s very simple – attraction has a lot more to do with positive personality driven characteristics than physical ones. This is also the reason why someone you wouldn’t have checked out twice at a party becomes a hell of a lot more attractive once you get to know them.
Knowing who you are, loving it and not being afraid to express it (without being cocky!) is a key turn on for anyone. So when you walk into a room, walk with your head high because you know you’re awesome and you have a lifetime of amazingness to offer every single person in that room. Then watch them eat out of the palm of your hand. Rawr!
Charm is one of those spellbinding qualities that each of us has within us in our own special way. Whether being flattering, kind, or telling the fabulous story of your latest vacation, there are two common elements that all charming people display – they are genuinely interested in the person they are speaking with, and they are excellent at creating rapport.
Don’t forget that conversations, whether they be with someone you just met, your partner of years, or even online, are a two way street and your chat partner. Ask questions. Take interest in their lives and what is important to them. Be engaging. Listen.
Become a great, genuine conversationalist and they will be raving about you long after you say “Until next time!”
Need some help with becoming a super charmer? Here are some awesome attraction stirring phrases that will drive them crazy with desire…
Now that you have 5 fantastic ways to turn anyone on, use them wisely. There’s really nothing more attractive than using your powers for good. You know what? Scratch that. Don’t be good – be freaking great! xo