Why Can’t I Understand Men?

“If Only I Could Understand Men”

by Bob Grant

Men always say they can’t understand women, and that women are so complicated. Well, for many women, it is the exact opposite. Most would give anything to understand what makes men “tick.” Even though women want to know what he’s thinking, men are often reluctant to share what is in their hearts. So what’s a woman to do? Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.

1) Men are more sensitive than women. While that might sound silly, the truth is that men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman. Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a man hears he should just “let his feelings out,” what he translates that into is this, “If I let my feelings out, I might not be able to control them.”

2) Men hate fighting. For men, conflict is not simply resolving a problem. Fighting, to a man, means one has to win and the other needs to be totally defeated. Men often prefer conflict that is non-emotional because it is less threatening to them. Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.

3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is more important as finding one who is beautiful.

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  1. Wow, whoever wrote the article “If Only I Could Understand Men….” has it right on the money. If more women understood these secrets to a man’s heart, a whole buncha people would be a whole lot happier. Fortunately I learned to articulate my emotions, but most men haven’t. If you want your man to be cemented to you, then absorb this information now!

    1. Hi BAH,

      It could mean a whole lot of different things. It would be hard to tell without looking at the whole picture but even then, only he really knows why. He will either be straight up and willing to give you that information or he won’t. In most cases, you won’t get the answers you’re looking for even if you ask for them. The best place to start is to ask why he has stopped communicating with you. If you are still confused, it might be time to let it go and move forward to other things that make you happy and fulfilled.

      Best wishes. <3


  2. I can articulate my emotions, but I’ve recently finished with one woman who wouldn’t communicate. Not all women can deal with their emotions as well as men, would you believe?! I don’t like fighting, but I will fight if I feel the relationship is in danger, and something needs to be done.
    Bah, he may be pi$$ed. Or, he may have tried all he can, and don’t know how else to get through to you. It is emotionally very risky for me to share their deepest feelings with a woman, especially if he doesn’t feel that she is committed to the relationship as much as he is.

  3. finding a women that a man can trust, AND COMMUNICATE with is far more important that finding one that is beautiful… Its easy to find someone with whom your body resonates, but the trick is finding one that your soul feels good with.

  4. This isn’t the whole story, of course, but it’s a dang good introduction. Very nice.