She’s strong.

She's strong.

She’s strong because she knows what it’s like to be weak.  She keeps a guard up because she knows what it’s like to cry herself to sleep.

Isn’t that what building walls is all about?  Trying to claim back your own strength in the face of adversity?  Otherwise what reason to put up walls?  It seems the higher the walls we put up, the greater the pain we have experienced in our past.  I belong to the school of thought which believes that we, as humans, are hard-wired to persevere and fight back when our survival is at risk – not just our physical survival but our mental and emotional survival as well.  When situations bring us to a point where we feel that we have been brought to our knees emotionally, we will fight back in order to get through it and find ourselves again.  We will likely be extra sensitive, we will have our guard up, we will cry ourselves to sleep, and we will build walls.  It is part and parcel in the healing process.  Ideally, we will also push through our pain and come out the other side both stronger and more self-aware.  We will survive, and if we want to live a full life, we will hopefully get to the point of allowing ourselves to trust again. ~Gia

5 comments

  1. This really does apply to both genders. Most often its the emotional well being of the woman that is considered, Not the man. Im not jealous, nor am I biased. I recently left a relationship because of a lack of interest from the g/f. When I brought it up she got defensive. I admit that I wasnt kind when things got heated…but I never attacked her personally just how she was handling certain aspects of our relationship. I was the guy ALL women dream of having as far as how he treats her…but I was told I was smothering and needy. I feel for her actually that she wasnt able to see that someone truly cared about her without regard for himself. After realizing the trauma she has been through since childhood I came to realize that there is NOTHING a MAN can do for her at this point. It all boils down to this message SHE is strong and SHE will survive. I just hope its sooner rather than later.

    1. You’re absolutely right, Todd. This applies to both genders as do all things. These quotes are mostly geared towards women which I think is unfair too which is why I try to keep my commentary as gender neutral as possible.

      I’m sorry to hear about your experience. Sometimes it’s better to let go, especially in cases where the problem really does lie with the other individual and their lack of self-awareness, self-esteem or wounds from their past. We can only try to help people as much as they are willing to let us help them. Beyond that, it’s their responsibility to help themselves.

      Take good care.

      ~Gia

  2. It’s too bad that one’s ‘baggage’ is not visible. It takes a while to learn that it’s there, what it’s about, and even if it’s fixable. Oftentimes it’s a painful
    journey for both people. Keep the faith Todd, every relationship has its happy times and its lessons. All the best ……