Okay, perhaps we should get one thing straight about this article right away.
It’s not going to be about any of the following:
- How to lose weight
- How to emphasize your cleavage
- How to sexily swing your hips as you walk
- How to give bedroom eyes
- etc.
In other words, the word sexiness in the title may evoke images of Marilyn Monroe, Raquel Welch, and Sophia Loren. But you should understand by now that possessing real sex appeal that actually does turn men’s heads wherever you go … that doesn’t come from boobs, hips, and heaps of makeup.
When it comes to attracting men with sex appeal, it all comes from the inside.
You can hear it from a sex goddess herself:
“I think the quality of sexiness comes from within. It is something that is in you or it isn’t, and it really doesn’t have much to do with breasts or thighs or the pout of your lips.”
–Sophia Loren
How to Exude Sexiness: The 3 Crucial Steps
So if it’s true that sexiness doesn’t come from physical attributes and it does come from within, exactly where from within does this sexiness originate? Well, the following steps will show you. Here’s what it takes to harness your inner sex-goddess:
- Know who you are.
Sounds easy enough, but hold your horses. Knowing who you are doesn’t mean knowing what your favorite color is, what books you like to read, or how you like your eggs cooked.
It means understanding your deepest core values, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, and realizing what you want to have accomplished when you’re in your 90s.
Here are two ideas to start exploring the real you.
- Start a journal: Yeah, yeah, the old “journal thing” again. It seems like a trite cliché to write in a journal, but clichés are rooted in truth! Free-writing in a journal every day can help you naturally unlock deep desires, truths about your insecurities, and your fears for the future. This is stuff you need to know.
- Understand your idols: Do you have anyone in your life who you really look up to? Have you ever wondered why? This is a great way to understand your own personal values and moral code. That’s because we tend to look up to people who have the values that we
For example, if you look up to Meryl Streep, it may be because she always seems calm, cool, and collected. She focuses on her children and a husband she’s been married to for decades. She also focuses on herself by putting tons of effort on her career in the arts. She always looks put-together. She appears as someone who doesn’t take crap, but she’s also reverent, intelligent, and is very compassionate.
Could it be that you look up to her because these are attributes that you value and strive for also? Again, this is what you need to know about yourself.
- Use the Serenity Prayer (accept yourself).
This is not a religious article, and the Serenity “Prayer” really doesn’t have to have anything to do with religion. This is the rendition we’re exploring:
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
The first part of this text is what’s most important: “having the serenity [and confidence] to accept [and embrace] the things [about myself] that I cannot change.”
In other words: Own you. Got a bigger butt, button nose, huge forehead, etc.? Own it. You can’t change this stuff, so start loving it TODAY. Now that is sexy.
But you should also understand that putting your best foot forward is also sexy. That’s the second part: “having the courage to change the things I can.”
Do you not like having gray hair? Does it limit your ability to feel confident and sexy? That’s something that’s pretty easily changeable, and if it will enhance your confidence and sexiness, have the courage to change it!
It’s really about looking at yourself critically AND with love. We said earlier that sexiness is not about what’s on the outside, and that’s true. It’s about how you perceive yourself on the inside.
- Redefine Sexiness
Again, whether you see yourself as sexy or not has almost everything to do with how men see you too. If you want to attract men and instantly trigger their sex drive and lust for you, then what’s most important is that you see yourself as sexy and lust-worthy.
Now this may seem kinda funny, but it’s true! And furthermore, it puts the ball in your court. Which is great.
If all you have to worry about is whether or not you find yourself sexy (so that men will, in turn, feel the same, and they will), then you make the rules.
You can define SEXY however you want.
So the final step in learning to exude sexiness is to redefine what it means to be gorgeous and irresistible.
Think about it. You can give sexiness a whole new meaning.
The best way to do this? Take a class.
Honestly, it’s the simplest and most effective solution. The one that most women have found amazing success with is called the Gorgeous Course.
This course teaches you exactly how to redefine what it means to be sexy in your mind so that you can finally take control of your confidence.
If you take this guided course to redefine what it means to you to be sexy and gorgeous, and if you use the other two steps we talked about, you’ll be amazed at how your life will change in an instant.
Let’s just say “turning heads” is an understatement … so get ready! 😉
